I’ve been to a ton of women’s events. From bible studies to accountability groups to cookie baking nights to brunch to wine and movie nights- I’ve done it all. Although done with good intent, these events often feel forced, unsatisfying, and seriously lacking vulnerability. As someone who craves deep connection, the small talk, gossip, and topical conversation that did not relate to the whole group made me wonder if there was another way.
Read MoreWhen I was young, my idol was Elle Woods from Legally Blonde. She was beautiful, smart, positive, and most of all kind. I admired her ability to be loving and joyful in all situations. Being positive felt natural for the most part. I carried a journal with me for an entire year called, “The List of Things I Love.” I still have it too, besides for the page dedicated to a high school boyfriend… oh geeze.
Read MoreFriends are my lifeblood. I thrive on relationships, soul talks, and getting down with my girlfriends. With my closest friends and safe people, I have open, loving, and raw relationships. Yet, I see a life coach.
Read MoreWith a history of gossip, betrayal, and codependency in friendship, becoming a safe person has been a journey. I’ve discussed before how I have been a bad picker, but I’ve also not been very safe. Becoming safe is work. Lots of trial and error and forgiveness. Through reading books, blogs, and talking with my counselor on the subject, I have come up with 5 ways to know whether I am a safe person or not.
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