Episode 92: {Microdose} Is Codependency Control? How To Heal People-Pleasing At The Root
“The people-pleasing, the contorting ourselves, being likable, downplaying our shine, withholding our expression, the putting others’ needs first, it’s all a bid at controlling so we don’t have to feel.”
-Madison Morrigan, The Everything Belongs Podcast
Today on the Everything Belongs Podcast, Madison is offering you up a microdose on the way we control our relationships through codependency and people pleasing. In this dose, she candidly shares on why she feels 2020 was the year of old-patterning relapse for many folks, her own history with a codependent adaptive strategy, the interlinked roles of grief, emotional avoidance and responsibility inside codependent behaviors, and so much more…
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In this episode, we talk about:
Exiting relationships only to see the insidious nature of codependency still at play
Contributing factors that had Madison back in old codependent patterning
Why Madison believes this adaptive strategy is embedded in the identities of women and femmes
How the unwillingness to feel grief and pain is core to these patterns
Why people-pleasing and other behavior is an avoidance of pain through control
Accepting our lack of control and feeling our pain as a portal to getting more free
Failing to see another's sovereignty and dismissing our own self responsibility
Why taking responsibility for our energy and choices liberates us
Coming to peace with spiral nature of this adaptive strategy
