Ever been manipulated? The #1 way I keep myself from being the victim of manipulation
A lot of blame get’s placed on manipulators. They are labeled as controlling, narcissistic, unhealthy, and bullies. It’s fair to say, however, that at some point or another, many of us have been a manipulator, and many of us have been manipulated.
As someone who has been healed of chronic victim mentalities, I have come to understand that I played a large role in my manipulation, and now that I can see clearly, know how to not be manipulated.
Here is my #1 tip to keep yourself from being manipulated:
Know yourself.
Always, always start with yourself. If you are unsure of who you are, you will be easily swayed. Here are a few questions you can ask yourself to get centered:
-What do I stand for?
-What are my core values? (discover yours in this free journaling guide)
-Who am I at my center?
-What are my opinions?
-What do I love? What do I hate?
Try to connect with people without needing anything from them. “Need-free” connection is such a healthy place to find yourself. When you show up and connect with people without needing to manipulate, control, or get them to “like” you, you can become immune to manipulation yourself.
“When you can totally accept yourself completely, right now, unconditionally, then you have foundation for self love. And when we can love ourselves as we are, it opens up an incredible space for need-free connection. Maturity is need-free connection.” -Jesse Elder
Holding your own space and owning who you are is a must if you feel like you’re easily manipulated. It takes courage to find yourself, and it takes strength to stand your own when faced with hard decisions. But you will feel so much better when you stay true to yourself, your opinions, and are free from manipulation. You have the power to be a victor, not a victim.
There is freedom in being unapologetically yourself.
xx,
-Madison