How to be Heart-Centered Without Letting Your Emotions Take Over Part 1

How to be Heart-Centered Without Letting Your Emotions Take Over | madisonmorrigan.com

What is the difference between leading a life ruled by the ups and downs of emotions and a heart-centered life?

I learned listening to my heart and feelings was not only sinful, but it would make my life a mess.

In my work as a coach, I get asked those questions a lot. Rightfully so, as many were told growing up not to trust their feelings (myself included.) For most of my life, I buried my emotions and deep feelings, ashamed for feeling so much. It wasn’t until I learned how to healthfully channel my emotions and look at the deeper parts of myself that I discovered that a feeling and a deep desire are different. Heart-centered, desires, core values, the things that light you up, make you angry, evoke a strong emotion, that is the stuff I am talking about today.

So what does it mean, exactly, to life a heart-centered life??

First, I want to tell you what heart-centeredness is not.

It is not a fleeting feeling, it is not even an emotion, necessarily. It is not following every whim of your ups and downs, and it is not even the cliche “listen to your heart” as many understand it. Being heart-centered is not about chasing a high, chasing a feeling, or even trying to be happy all the time. That way of living is cheap, surface, and not long-lasting.

Heart-centeredness is about the deep, core values and desires, that when not aligned with our lives, leave us feeling unfulfilled.

View part 2 of this blog post for sensitive souls here.

Heart-centeredness is a state of peace in which life is aligned. It is when the choices we make line up with our values and our deepest desires. It is deeper than a fleeting emotion or a bad day. You can live a heart-centered life in the midst of the ups and the downs!

Many people get heart-centeredness confused with chasing the fleeting desires of the heart, assuming that the following the heart will lead nowhere good. But let me be clear, there is a difference. Being heart-centered means that you are aware of what you desire in life. You know your values. You know how to take responsibility for yourself and your emotions. You make choices that honor your needs, values, and beliefs. When you live that way, no matter if you have a bad day, or a trying season, you can feel peace in your integrity and that you have the power to choose a life you want to be in.

It won’t prevent the trials. It won’t prevent the pains of relationship drama, of death, finance issues, or career decisions, but it WILL change you and how you approach your life. It will change your decisions, the way you speak, forgive, love, and play (in fact, I wrote all about the lessons personal responsibility has given me here in this blog post.)

When you are heart-centered, you listen to your feelings as information without letting them control your every move. You listen to your feelings with maturity and grace. The heart-centered feelings we are talking about are deep satisfaction with life. They are the richness. They are better than the fleeting feelings, and when aligned, those little temptations to stray from our values feel less pulling. The more connected you are with your heart, the more your life will reflect a life of peace.

So now it’s your turn?

What are your core values?

What are the desires of your heart?

If you are unsure and want to figure it out, I would encourage you to download my free meditation and journal guide below.

Getting clear and aligned will help you live in peace and and live in that richness.

Ready to get started? If so, you may enjoy reading this blog post about navigating being told you’re “too sensitive”.

xx,

-Madison

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