Many of my clients have named deeply relating to my experience with neurodivergence, and have asked how exactly I cater my life, relationships and business to the unique needs of my system! So today, I’m going to share all my favorite ways I radically own and meet my own needs in life, biz and relationships, some tools I use to stay organized, grounded and regulated, as well as some systems that allow me to save energy on what depletes me, focus on what I love and drop WAY less balls in life.
Read MoreGoing first has been a big theme in my life, and in the lives of many of my dear clients– be it going first to therapy, being the first to get divorced, the first to come out, the first to leave the religion of your childhood, the first to ask questions or the first to have the courage to name the truth. Let’s be honest, going first is fucking hard. The below poem is about just that– losing your magic, but being willing to go first in finding it.
Read MoreIn my 20’s I found myself in a string of relationships rife with narcissism. At the time, the online space wasn’t nearly as narcissism-obsessed, so the language just wasn’t there. I didn’t know how to name or share my experience with others clearly. What I knew then was this: I didn’t trust myself…. At all. I was terrified something was wrong with me, and constantly working to “fix” myself….
Read MoreHave you ever diluted your truth to appease another person? I got so caught up trying to be “unproblematic” on the internet that I about dismantled the very life that lights me up. I once called this kind of diminishment “leadership.” I called this being thoughtful and tactful. But diminishing yourself and hiding your light is not woke. It’s a joke...
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