Are you willing to Go First to find freedom?

Going first has been a big theme in my life, and in the lives of many of my dear clients– be it going first to therapy, being the first to get divorced, the first to come out, the first to leave the religion of your childhood, the first to ask questions or the first to have the courage to name the truth.  Let’s be honest, going first is fucking hard. The below poem is about just that– losing your magic, but being willing to go first in finding it. 

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Your True Identity | Breaking free of Narcissistic Abuse and Reclaiming your Sovereignty

In my 20’s I found myself in a string of relationships rife with narcissism. At the time, the online space wasn’t nearly as narcissism-obsessed, so the language just wasn’t there. I didn’t know how to name or share my experience with others clearly. What I knew then was this: I didn’t trust myself…. At all. I was terrified something was wrong with me, and constantly working to “fix” myself….

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Want to squash your creativity, leadership and joy? Do this.

Over the years I’ve been keeping track of the most pesky beliefs, the most detrimental habits that indicate burnout and a dampened spirit are on the horizon, as well as what to immediately STOP doing to shift the energy.  Today I’m going to name them loud and clear for you! I offer you, after 9 years of investigating, and hundreds of clients, these are what I observe to be the 5 horseman of potent creativity, joy and leadership–

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